Sponsor Issues

[lpTime]

Hi everyone, I have been in the program about 2 months and I got a sponsor my first day. She chose me initially and I decided to keep her as my primary sponsor. She is a little bit younger than me which is okay since we seem to be on the same maturity level. I have been feeling like she doesn't have enough time to have a sponsee especially since she just started a second job. She doesn't answer her phone much even though I'm really just calling her daily to check in. We meet once a week to work the steps (read the books) but when I see her at meetings, she doesn't have time to talk afterwards and I feel rushed every time we do talk. I thank God for my therapist because that's at least one hour where I know someone is listening to me and is actually there to help - and she's also got 21 years in recovery. I'd love to have her as a sponsor I think. I guess I need another sponsor - someone who has more time to devote to my recovery, especially since I'm still a newcomer and these are the vital times. I just don't know if I should "fire" her now to look for a new one or wait until I find a new one (much like I've always done relationships - haha). I don't want to hurt her feelings and I'm sure she'll be fine with it. I don't know if I can or should try for someone I already know - that we BOTH know or if that would be stepping on toes. I don't feel that my sobriety isn't being threatened by this right now, but what happens when I really need her??? She insists on me calling everyday and going to meetings everyday - she obviously has good intentions but not enough time to devote to sponsorship. Am I too needy here? Thanks for any experience, strength, or hope you have to share on this!!

[admin]

lpTime! Glad to have you join us here. If you feel you need to change sponsors then do so. You have to look out for your sobriety first. I would pray seeking guidance in this. When you do tell your old sponsor, I suggest keeping it short and sweet, and in and out quick. Keep your side of the street clean in doing so. Please feel free to continue to come and share with us here. We are here for you.

[dalin]

So...how much were you paying her...
(just kiddin')
I hear you.I just know that my sponsor has a life beyond me,and sponsors alot of other guys to.
Mine told me in the begining to work on other relationships besides the one with him.
He is there to guide me thru the steps.
Mine sponsors alot of other guys,and he told me to begin building relationships with them as well as the one Ihad with him.
So in the begining he told me to stay in touch with folks that had a year or more in recovery.
I would try to work on your relationship with her,as well as a few others with recovery.
Get to know folks here in recoveryinternet to.
take care

[cassie]

Hello IPTime
Your program is about YOU! Not her. She will get over being "fired." What is important is that you find a sponsor you are comfortable with and who can help you work the steps. Your program and you are worth it. Another challenge, always a solution if we are patient and work for it. BTW, I am cassie, grateful recovering alcoholic. Good to see you here. Please keep coming back.

[CD BUCKBERRY]

IP Time,I think you should probably get another sponsor if you think the one you have now is not the right one.They should return calls from sponsees.Just like cassie said your program is about you and no one else.You also should pick a sponsor not them pick you,in case it is a temporary sponsor like they have in A.A..Keep Coming Back,Easy Does It,First Things First,One Day At A Time.